With a mix of concerted cultivation, emotion coaching, authoritative (not to be confused with authoritarian) parenting styles and a libertarian
leaning. I’ve been labeled by many as a hippie or neo-hippie. Not sure that’s an
entirely accurate label due to my complex and somewhat contradictory views. However, I’m fine with that if it helps people relate to me. I’m open to hear about your
differing style and thoughts as long as it doesn’t come along with judgments - please
don’t tell me your way is ‘better’. Have you tried both ways, and one way is
better for you and your family?! Then good for you for exploring and improving
your situation. Otherwise, how do you know which is ‘better’ and better for
whom?
With
the help of these articles and others I was able to better articulate some of
my come from as it pertains to both parenting and life.
http://www.helium.com/items/171239-neo-hippie-parenting
“Neo-Hippie parenting”
http://www.helium.com/items/1014476-neo-hippie-parenting
“Neo-Hippie parenting”
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Don’t expect from
others – earn what you need and appreciate what’s shared
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Admitting failure
is extremely powerful because influence without humility is meaningless
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Honor honesty - trust
is the means by which all human relationships are governed
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Leave it better
then you found it - improve the situation, at minimum try not to make it worse
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Obedience, teach it as a survival skill as it comes into play
with both laws and physics
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Forgive accidents
and mistakes yet implement and explain the reasonable punishment for purposeful
wrong-doing
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Family and friendship
is a commitment, maintain and grow relationships
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People matter not
stuff but respect people themselves as well as their views and belongings
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Practice what one preaches
– illustrate quality characteristics for a happy healthy life
Gag! 'Neo-Hippie,' just another label... I believe you both were raised with a somewhat successful parenting style and you embraced allot of it as your own. Were your parents of the original freedom movement, were they effected by the 60's or even 'hippies' themselves? I didn't have that luxury, I was raised with 'Might Makes Right' a fear based environment where as a child I was afraid to breath let alone speak. It was the 60's and older hip brothers and sisters that rescued me and gave me the right to think for myself and embrace the world as my own. If there is to be a new movement of some sort, let it start with parenting, and if it need be labeled something I guess Neo (New) - Hippie isn't so bad; after all as I stated I had my place in the 60's :)
ReplyDeleteI'm 56 years old and I am one who was at the tale end of the 60's freedom movement. I have always been a rebel and have been told that all my life... Thank God for the times I didn't fit in, especially as a parent and hopefully as a grand-parent as well!
ReplyDeleteI've been told that "Attachment Parenting" is also a way to describe how we have chosen to live and learn/teach.
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